Interdependence: God's original plan. part 1

In the present world and dispensation  in which we live, total dependence on one's self, abilities, strengths is being emphasized especially with the emancipation of strict feminism, self-motivation,and continual creation of human rights. These mediums are essential for every developing country, but will create more harm than good if not thought about before implementation, especially its excesses. Our society is growing into a type where people do not see the need of having other people in their lives. We believe that we can make it to any height , Alone. Those who have tried this absurd principle (even me) have learnt the hard way, that trying to do all alone tires us easily.  You fail, then you blame someone else.
One who has a dream or vision given by God understands that it is impossible for him to fulfill it alone, as God isn't a little God and so does not give mediocre visions to His children. It will be so impossible to accomplish God's vision for your life alone. God will send people to you, whom you have to care, train, love, understand and accept into your life.
Now having people assist you in that vision is a whole different from believing that without a person's finances, skill or whatever, God's will won't be done. This is no longer interdependence, but idolatry. Idolatry comes in when you depend on a person's pedigree that you begin to manipulate the environment even in times that they want to leave. Allow people walk away if they please to. If they are in God's will for you, they will return. If not, believe God to replace them.
Idolatry is distinct from interdependence. Even self sufficiency is idolatry.
For one to maximise the gift of interdependence,one must understand that no one is perfect, as we all have our strengths and weaknesses and most times, the other person's strength, is our weakness and vice versa. Yes, we can work on our weaknesses, but we know deep down in our hearts that there are some things or character traits that come natural to us. Imagine a good entrepreneur who is bad at calculations and who believes he needs no one in that area. The balance or mixing of my weakness with my friends strength makes the cake sweeter, as she balances and also helps me. A cake made of just flour can be quite boring and not tasty. Ask a choleric husband and phlegmatic wife married for over 10 years of how unity and balance has been created in the diversity of their characters. I think that was God's motive in bringing Adam and Eve together. Two different people coming together despite their differences to become one.
From today, I really wish above all things that though mayest understand and appreciate God's gift in your life - people. They are assets in your sojourn in life. Understand that they were put for a purpose. Appreciate the fact that in your moments of weakness, they will lift you up. Do not expect them to be as you are and don't try to change them. Their difference with you is evident, work things out. This not only applies to marriage, but same Sex relationships. I see the difference between myself and my friends. Don't push people who are different from you out of impatience. You aren't perfect, they aren't too. Even if you think you now are, you were once imperfect.
Everybody in your life counts. Your vision is not in you but in everybody. Don't cut people off as inside them is your future. If you cut them off, you are cutting part of your vision away.

Scripture reference : Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. If two lie down together, they will keep warm, but how can one be warm ALONE? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord isn't easily broken.

God bless you.


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